A scarcity mindset runs on fear.
Fear creates panic, anxiety, and more fear.
It feels like being stuck.
A scarcity mindset sounds like this:
- “I’m running out of time to meet a great life partner.”
- “If this doesn’t work, I’m screwed!”
- “Money is tight. I better tighten the belt even more.”
- “What if I lose my job?”
- “He/she will leave me anyway, so may as well hold back my heart”.
Notice the word scarcity has the word scared within it?
Being fearful creates a smaller world for yourself. When I feel scared of life I don’t deviate from my everyday routines much. Hence I create a narrow, reduced experience of what life can offer in breadth and depth.
An abundance mindset sounds like this:
- “Meeting a life partner is an added bonus, in the meantime I will make sure my life is full and happy”.
- “I have so many options! If this doesn’t work out, onto the next!”
- “There is so much money in the world. All I have to do is make it and grow/invest what I make”.
- “There are so many jobs out there, is this one right for me, or should I explore other opportunities? I could review my core values and see what else might be a fit for my true self.”
Something that we thought might be scarce in recent times:
Toilet paper. Yeah the stuff that people panic buy every time there’s a lockdown. Quite a few people thought it would run out because they based their decision on fear, did you notice that the resulting behavior perpetuated the fear into our reality? We DID run out (urrrrrggghhhhhh!!!) because of the change in buying behavior (not because it’s a scarce resource). In other words – WE caused the fear to come true!
The shelves suddenly became eerily empty.
A stark reminder and example of this one weird rule of life:
What you focus on increases. (good or bad).
It manifests itself.
“A mindset of courage and optimism creates abundance.Morvana Zaahira Goodman
A mindset of fear creates scarcity and inertia”.
It sounds unbelievable, but have you ever ‘worried yourself sick’?
Your fear of getting sick – made you sick!
I bet like me, as a kid, you felt like there was a monster in the closet?
You are sure it lives in the dark corners and comes out to explore the house when you’re asleep. But, if the media published this monster’s existence relentlessly, would the whole of society start to believe there is a ‘monster in the closet’?
After seeing what happened with toilet paper, closet monsters could well be next. A scarcity mindset can creep into relationships, dating, and life in general.
Imagine you came up with a negative outcome you predicted for your life or relationship; you start behaving like it’s bound to happen. You look for evidence and find stuff that could be proof, but not really. Finally, things around you start to support your storyline. Your friend says something similar to the myth, then the partner seems more secretive lately, meaner, and so on. You build more and more evidence until a complete myth feels like reality.
Another example of this dangerous effect where fear runs away with itself: the Netflix show: Crime Scene: The Vanishing at the Cecil Hotel, a documentary that investigates the mysterious death of Elisa Lam. Many internet sleuths tried to investigate the death based on short video of her released to the public. The ‘sleuths’ drew all kinds of wild conclusions from the video of her in an elevator – seemingly talking to someone off-screen. They accused people who may have been at the hotel at the time of her murder (ruining some people’s lives). But (spoiler alert), in the end, her mental illness and not taking her meds, caused her unusual behavior and subsequent death. The fear of a murderer on the loose was a complete myth but many people wasted years chasing their own theories.
Like monsters in the closet, the fear of a heartless killer at the hotel was far more captivating than the truth. The mind is so, so powerful I find the direction it’s pointed can make or break me, my life and other people’s lives.
To guard against runaway fear there’s a few techniques I use below. Next time you are afraid imagine you have a wand and you need to point it towards abundance, try the following:
- Self-nourishment – daily practice of doing what makes you feel happy – fills wand with energy, vibrance and magic.
- Ask yourself – am I OK right now? – checks if you have an old past history wand or a wand from the future that isn’t real.
- Blessing lists – writing out daily lists of things you’re grateful for – focuses wand in a positive direction.
- Check past memories – has this fear been overcome before? – if yes, supercharges wand with confidence.
- What was the outcome? – points wand at result proven to be possible before.
I ask myself the fear questions (weeds out irrational fears and things not within your control for better wand pointing accuracy):
1. What am I afraid will happen if things don’t go well?
2. How true or realistic is this fear?
3. Can this be controlled anyway?
4. Is it worth the loss of sanity to try and control it?
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© Morvana Zaahira Goodman 2021